Anti-Bullying Guide for Students
We have rules and expectations about being safe, respectful and responsible.
What happens when people forget to be nice to each other?
HA HA SO STRATEGY
If someone is being mean to you, try to remember to use the HA, HA, SO strategy.
Help - Ask students, teachers, and parents for help.
- Sometimes it is best for a victim to ask other people to help handle the bully. Victims can go to friends, teachers, parents, or other adults for help.
Assert yourself - Be assertive when dealing with a bully by using an ''I" statement.
- When someone picks on you, you can say something like, "Please stop that. I don't like it."
Humor - Find a funny way to deal with a bully.
- Remember: a bully wants to upset you. Instead of getting angry, try using a sense of humour. Be ready with a joke (Have you heard the one about...?) You could also say something silly. For example, if a bully says, ''You're not cool," you could reply, "You're not my earlobe" and walk away. You will leave the bully wondering why you are not getting upset.
Avoid - Stay away from people who are mean.
- Try to stay away from bullies. For example, if a bully is playing in the field at recess, you could play on the playground equipment instead. Avoiding works because if you are not near a bully, he or she can't bully you.
Self-talk - Think happy thoughts.
- "Self-talk" means talking to yourself in your head. When someone is mean to you, say to yourself, "I'm okay. This is their problem and I know that bullying is wrong.
- Here are some examples of self-talk:
- "I don't care that Ted called me stupid. I know I just got an A on my science test."
- "I know I'm not snotty like Suzie says. I always try to be friendly and think of other people's feelings."
Own it - Deflect a put down by owning it and making it yours.
- If someone says, "That's an ugly dress." You can say, "I don't like it either. My mom made me wear it." Sometimes what the bully says might be true, so you can "own" the comment. For example, if you are being made fun of for wearing glasses, you could respond by saying, "All the better to see you with." You can't deny you are wearing glasses if you are wearing them, but you don't have to be ashamed of it, either.
If you witness bullying or violence, you must report it.
Submit an online reporting form and it will be sent to our behaviour technician.
You can talk to an adult and/or your parents anytime.
We are here to help—You are not alone!
If you are being bullied, you must make it stop.
- Take action and file a report! Waiting only makes it worse.
- Stand firm! Stay calm and do what you have to do.
- Stay with friends you trust. You are less likely to be bullied if you are in a group.
- Find an adult. Telling an adult does not make you "snitch".
- Defend yourself. But sometimes it is not enough.
- Do something! Bullying is serious and must NEVER be tolerated. You deserve respect.
You must tell a trusted adult immediately if:
- You sense an immediate danger to your safety.
- If you are a victim of a criminal act.
- If someone is threatening you
They will help you contact the police.
Are you being bullied on social media, by texting or by phone?
How can you make it stop?
• Keep your passwords a secret and only give your phone number or your email to people you trust.
• Refuse any invitation or request to be ‘friends’ that comes from an unknown source.
• Keep contact with your friends outside of the online world (young people less than 13 years are not allowed to have their own Facebook account).
• STOP and do not respond to threatening messages.
• AVOID sending an insulting or menacing reply; it could come back to haunt you.
• BLOCK anyone threatening you by email, text or on social media.
• TALK about the situation with an adult you can trust.
• TRACK the address where the threatening message originated.
• SAVE any threatening messages as proof.
• TELL an adult of any threat or situation where you feel a bully has compromised your safety and the adult will decide if you need to go to the police.
Student Witness - What do you do if you witness bullying?
You have a big responsibility if you witness bullying because your reactions can encourage or discourage the aggressor. If you just stand by as a spectator, you are part of the problem and make the situation worse.
- Bullies are looking for attention. If you do nothing when someone bullies someone else, you simply encourage the bully, who thinks it is okay to continue. Instead of just standing by and watching, do something about the situation. Tell the bully to stop if you feel safe, otherwise go and look for an adult.
- Be part of the solution. Your role is important. You do not have to be part of the problem by staying quiet or by encouraging the bully, which just makes matters worse.
- You are not a ‘snitch’ when you report bullying. A ‘snitch’ is not someone who steps in when another person is in harm’s way. When you tell an adult that a friend or someone you know is being bullied, you HELP victims and you contribute to protecting them.
- If you feel safe, MAKE YOURSELF HEARD. If you feel it is safe to do so, confront the bully and defend the victim.
- Do not stay silent. Offer assistance to the victim, show your support, invite the victim to share activities at school or outside of school hours.
- Never encourage anyone to bully someone else. Comfort the person being bullied, show the victim that you support him or her, that you are on their side and that you don’t agree with what has happened.
- Even if you are hesitant to step in directly, you can still TAKE ACTION. Warn an adult whom you trust (a parent, principal, teacher, behaviour technician, psychologist, caretaker, supervisor).
- At any time you can contact the school office about an incidence of intimidation by filling in a Report Form yourself or by helping the victim make the report.
What should you do if you see a case of cyberbullying?
- REACT when you notice your friends are being harassed by others.
- PROTEST everytime you see it happen. If you protest, you can help ensure that it stops.
- REFUSE at all times, to pass along or resend an image, video or message that is offensive to someone.
- SAVE any threatening messages as proof of what you have seen.
- REPORT incidents to a trusted adult.
- WARN a trusted adult when you think the cyberbullying is more dangerous and serious (the adult will decide if you should report this matter to the police).
Have you been acting like a bully? Do you want to stop?
- SPEAK to your teacher about it. He/she will help you.
- SEE the behaviour technician. He/she can teach you some techniques to help you change your behaviour.
- SPEAK to your parents.
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